“What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life? / The world would split open.”
Poet Muriel Rukeyser

Thursday, September 27, 2007

RevGals Friday Five; Endings and beginnings

1. Best ending of a movie/book/TV show I don't need a "happy" ending, but I do like endings that show some degree of transformation of the characters. I like to see some growth and the potential for change.

2. Worst ending of a movie/book/TV show Endings that leave one feeling desolate. Like endings that offer no hope, not even the potential for hope at some point.

3. Tell about a memorable goodbye you've experienced. I once broke up with a boyfriend who just could not understand that it was over with us. Years later was still hoping for a reconciliation. I finally asked him if he wanted to meet the man I was going to marry (yes, it had been that long). He said yes. So I arranged for this ex-boyfriend to meet me with my fiance (whom I married 22 year ago and we're still together). After meeting my fiance this ex-boyfriend ran out of the restaurant clearly distraught...saying, no. no. you can't marry someone like "him!" I've always wondered what he meant by that. I found it all rather sad but humorous...at least he got the point and stopped calling me. Of, course now we have caller ID....

4. Is it true that "all good things must come to an end"?
Sure. Change is inevitable. It's ok. Something else will come along.

5. "Everything I ever let go of has claw marks on it." --Anne Lamott
Nah. Most everything I have let go I do willingly. I don't hang on to things forever, nor do I fight change. Sure, I might grieve, but I don't cling or claw. That's not to say I don't put up a fuss for some things, just not everything.

Bonus: "It isn't over until the fat lady sings." I've never loved this expression. So propose an alternative: "It isn't over until ____________________" Yes. I dislike this saying. How about, "It isn't over til the lights go out." or. "It isn't over til the dog stops licking it's wounds." or "it isn't over til it's over." or "it's over folks, go home." or "enough already!"

MFR and Sacral Cranial

Today I had the most interesting experience. Ten months ago I got sick, a bad infection that affected my jaw. I had surgery to drain the infection. The infection has been healed since February, but other complications have taken longer. In the mean time I have been receiving some awesome treatment from a chiropractor. I was a massage therapist for nine years. So after years of doing bodywork and caring for others I find myself on the other end.

Today I had some amazing work done. To help the healing in neck and jaw I received a myofacial release (MFR) treatment combined with a sacral cranial (neck and head) treatment. It was a gentle treatment that essentially moved my head and neck in a gentle flowing rhythm back and forth. All the while I was guiding it with my feedback about tight places or any other sensation.

I felt many things. Some of what I felt was tightness in muscles. Muscles in my neck, muscles down my spine, muscles under my scapula, muscles where my head and neck meet. Some points were very tender. My emotions were pronounced. I felt flutters of fear - flutters that are probably body memory of the illness. And some of the tender painful areas seemed like places that "held" a body memory of the surgery itself. It seemed one spot in my neck was "sore" because it was activated during the surgery, which was traumatic for me, and remembers the experience.

The thing is, just because we are sedated during surgery does not mean we do not experience the pain and trauma of it. Our muscles, our bodies, remember things our conscious minds do not. So, this bodywork today brought up the memory, and with any like, released it. Hopefully some of my chronic soreness will be healed.

Then. She did some internal work on the Pterigoid muscle, deep inside the mouth at the hinge of the jaw. WOW. My right side, where the infection was, was unbelievable...tender and filled with sore spots. The left side, virtually nothing. It was incredible body work. Really incredible.