tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post1557976498654237722..comments2023-08-16T03:41:06.575-04:00Comments on Seeking Authentic Voice: Twenty Two Years MarriedTerrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-31917383764523727642007-08-20T22:13:00.000-04:002007-08-20T22:13:00.000-04:00I understand that feeling of relief. I think (ofte...I understand that feeling of relief. I think (often) it is not a matter of the "right" choice or the "wrong" choice, but our ability to live with the choices we make and let them be (and become) the "right" one 'cuz it's what we thought best at the time.<BR/><BR/>Blessings on you as you move into and through the days ahead.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-68509249509661503382007-08-20T21:04:00.000-04:002007-08-20T21:04:00.000-04:00Congratulations and thanks for the honesty. As so...Congratulations and thanks for the honesty. As someone recently separated there are so many feelings. We made it for 15 years, why not another 15? Looking at old couples together and realizing that won't be us. But there's also relief. <BR/><BR/>I appreciate your honesty in recognizing you had hard choices and staying together was one you made. Good for you. And may the next 22 bring more joy than frustration and the comfort of being known and loved for the long haul.laurajhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03807633102907921517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-67633175747601274902007-08-18T17:46:00.000-04:002007-08-18T17:46:00.000-04:00Yes, that's a good way to put it, I think it's mak...Yes, that's a good way to put it, I think it's making me a better person, too...Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-1352713080242216702007-08-18T08:59:00.000-04:002007-08-18T08:59:00.000-04:00Congratulations! I've decided there's not much tha...Congratulations! <BR/><BR/>I've decided there's not much that is easy about being married, but I think overall it's making me into a better person.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03643396653940902200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-56110258172331586872007-08-17T21:10:00.000-04:002007-08-17T21:10:00.000-04:00I hope your celebration is wonderful. Here's to t...I hope your celebration is wonderful. Here's to the long haul...Theresa Colemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12134175277230355640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-13713882760663924962007-08-17T17:18:00.000-04:002007-08-17T17:18:00.000-04:00thank you. so, our simple day, we took a long walk...thank you. so, our simple day, we took a long walk through the forests preserve. good thing we brought along the DEET - woa, so much rain and made for so many bugs, especially mosquitos...wow. I made it out with nary a bite...now, he's getting ready to go (back) to work and I'm going to have a crack at my sermon for the funeral tomorrow and also the sermon for Sunday. how fun is that...(i'm being a good sport, really).Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-63222191106457575532007-08-17T17:09:00.000-04:002007-08-17T17:09:00.000-04:00Congratulations on staying together through so muc...Congratulations on staying together through so much....and thank you for the honesty about the struggles, which is often in short supply especially in church circles. We too have had a good but very challenging 18 years and stayed together more than once for the children (not that they rule out a divorce--as you point out, it's sometimes the healthiest option for everyone--but for us they raise the stakes to where it had better be clearly better for everyone apart and thankfully it hasn't been). Prayers and blessings that the good grows and continues and the hard keeps dropping away...Dr. Laura Marie Grimeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10372741914558791844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-75122750852591290752007-08-17T12:27:00.000-04:002007-08-17T12:27:00.000-04:00I think marriages, at least mine, cycle through go...I think marriages, at least mine, cycle through good and difficult times. These are influenced by other things going on: the stage of child rearing, the stage of career(s), other family influences, world events (our financial situation is the result of 911 and small company fall out from loss of business and the long journey to rebuild a career, which may in fact never be rebuilt) (sigh)...so. I can't say it gets harder with time, just that some times are hard, others not so much...Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-27188597060972947462007-08-17T12:08:00.000-04:002007-08-17T12:08:00.000-04:00Many many happy congratulations!Many many happy congratulations!hip2bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00043622691294207012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-40294353794528680172007-08-17T12:03:00.000-04:002007-08-17T12:03:00.000-04:00Hooray for you! I was shocked to learn that it ge...Hooray for you! <BR/><BR/>I was shocked to learn that it gets HARDER as you go, not EASIER.<BR/><BR/>duh, I guess. <BR/><BR/>I'm going to bookmark this and come back to it.Mary Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02970052534402740820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-87542336303030870192007-08-17T11:54:00.000-04:002007-08-17T11:54:00.000-04:00Beautiful "clear-eyed" reflection about your marri...Beautiful "clear-eyed" reflection about your marriage and the "mix" that a real marriage is ... and what I had hoped to have. Blessings on you both today and always.Rev SShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14661507940053055640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-59714416333359278202007-08-17T10:45:00.000-04:002007-08-17T10:45:00.000-04:00Congrats! Our 5 yr is the 24th and we have had sev...Congrats! Our 5 yr is the 24th and we have had several of the same "talks" money is always in the mix, but we both try to remember that richer or poorer thing. Since he was a minister, and I was well on my way to becoming one, we laughed at the thought of richer! I hope that I can stay as honest and true to myself and our commitment as you seem to have in your 22 years. Blessings!rev h-dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14844912508550923363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-2676244058311807772007-08-17T09:13:00.000-04:002007-08-17T09:13:00.000-04:00Thanks, everyone.Thanks, everyone.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-65447278289522202252007-08-17T09:10:00.000-04:002007-08-17T09:10:00.000-04:00I love this post, mompriest. The honesty of it--ye...I love this post, mompriest. The honesty of it--yes, like diane said, you're so "clear-eyed." <BR/><BR/>Your husband sounds like a great guy. You mention that he works two jobs and is in recovery. Big things there.<BR/><BR/>My husband jokes about being "the preacher's wife." And everyone kind of laughs when he says that, but like your husband, he's really my biggest supporter, too. In this culture, that's really something. I love it that you have a team ministry with your husband. <BR/><BR/>Congratulations on 22 years, mompriest! Heartfelt!Katherine E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06322364633534297714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-71221147741760947362007-08-17T01:40:00.000-04:002007-08-17T01:40:00.000-04:00yes, here's to 22 more! congrats!(and I like the ...yes, here's to 22 more! congrats!<BR/>(and I like the 'team ministry' you've got going--very cool)Barbara B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02645311082295646375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-45491146172248048702007-08-16T22:24:00.000-04:002007-08-16T22:24:00.000-04:00you sound clear-eyed and thankful...I'd want you f...you sound clear-eyed and thankful...I'd want you for a pre-maritcal counselor any day, not some of these "everything is beautiful" people. <BR/><BR/>Thanks.Diane M. Rothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07749136181846671327noreply@blogger.com