tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post3941408337099456499..comments2023-08-16T03:41:06.575-04:00Comments on Seeking Authentic Voice: Self Disclosure and Self-Differentiation as Clergy and Leaders in the ChurchTerrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-27776805417630613932010-12-20T15:51:59.095-05:002010-12-20T15:51:59.095-05:00Gwenyth, I really like Lawrence Kushner...use to u...Gwenyth, I really like Lawrence Kushner...use to use his stories as illustration points in my sermons, alhough it was years ago and you may not remember....but this book I have not (yet) read.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-70221993841541897492010-12-20T15:29:43.748-05:002010-12-20T15:29:43.748-05:00Terri, I read a book in October that explained a l...Terri, I read a book in October that explained a lot of this: I'm God, You're Not, by Lawrence Kushner. It was illuminating & edifying. You can get it @ the public library. GwenythGwenythhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15042584635536757275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-46743411986510747522010-12-18T20:52:16.635-05:002010-12-18T20:52:16.635-05:00Great post! And good comment from Diane too. It ...Great post! And good comment from Diane too. It is SUCH a fine line that if a person is a caring kind of individual, it can be very difficult to walk that line without falling off on one side or the other. I wish I had understood this a bit better a few years ago. I would have been both a wiser pastor and a wiser friend.Dorcas (aka SingingOwl)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15626748280614018533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-68493551701749051102010-12-18T19:22:40.046-05:002010-12-18T19:22:40.046-05:00Diane, that's right.Diane, that's right.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-24174764238440172822010-12-18T19:08:13.643-05:002010-12-18T19:08:13.643-05:00well said! My understanding of self-differentiati...well said! My understanding of self-differentiation is that you are connected yet separate. Connected enough to "get it" (not too cold) but separate enough to really deal with your congregation and not get absorbed into it.Diane M. Rothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07749136181846671327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-70075648446493991742010-12-18T18:21:59.650-05:002010-12-18T18:21:59.650-05:00well said.well said.revkjarlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03516266924883899536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-56974764035011825032010-12-18T17:40:50.706-05:002010-12-18T17:40:50.706-05:00exactly - for both of you!exactly - for both of you!Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-46153429687090299652010-12-18T17:10:26.591-05:002010-12-18T17:10:26.591-05:00Yeah. Which makes for slightly less than mutual fr...Yeah. Which makes for slightly less than mutual friendship, but is a gift nonetheless.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15399916226004495031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-49787080130398853512010-12-18T15:45:07.215-05:002010-12-18T15:45:07.215-05:00Wendy, here's the thing - the pastor can be YO...Wendy, here's the thing - the pastor can be YOUR friend - but it's complicated for you to be the Pastor's friend in the true sense of the word. It's a fine line....Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2678482213828648107.post-1052748640633757772010-12-18T15:39:50.861-05:002010-12-18T15:39:50.861-05:00From the layperson's side, I get this, and I g...From the layperson's side, I get this, and I get that the pastor REALLY needs to be careful to not have favorites (and it would be arrogant to think I would be one anyway) but it's hard when my pastor is the first person I've met in a long time with whom I feel the kind of connection that could be true friendship. But the boundaries are in place. And I keep trying to get to know other people. But it's kind of lousy. (word verf: coadapt. Hmm.)Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15399916226004495031noreply@blogger.com